October 13th, 2010 by admin
Welcome back for part three of what a rural girl looks for in a rural man to spark rural romance! Again, just need to remind you that these are tips, they are not rules that you must follow and that relationships are complex. If you seek professional advise please feel free to contact us on 1800 261 848 within Australia and +61 2 9570 7333 if you are not in Australia.
Do not talk about yourself all the time
It is not possible to start a romance by talking about yourself all the time! We all love to talk about ourselves, but to be romantic, you should show courtesy by asking your date what they are like instead.
This not only flatters the girl you are with, it helps you to understand more about her. This way you can make up your mind if a romantic prospect is worth pursuing.
So shut up and encourage her to talk. If she does not stop talking about herself, it can be a warning sign that the girl is high maintenance. But don’t judge too quickly, as her talking could just be the result of first date jitters.
Practice active listening
It’s one thing to ask questions, but then you need to really listen. Instead of just asking random disjointed questions of your rural girl, follow up with continuation questions to show you are listening as well as caring about what she is saying.
Focus your body language to convey that you are listening and interested. Some unconscious things we do when we are actively listening to another person is to lean forward, nod, and keep our eyes on their face.
Don’t ask for a kiss
It is a big romance killer if you do not have the confidence to initiate a kiss. Of course, do not rush it! But you need to be capable and confident of picking up signals if you are allowed to kiss or not. If you ask for a kiss you are just demonstrating low self-esteem. Always be safe on the first kiss – this means no tongue.
Some things you need to look out for in a woman:
Is she putting on an act?
If you are looking for a long term romance and you feel as if your partner is acting to get something from you – what else needs to be mentioned? If you sense that your date is putting on an act for her own personal gain, it is up to you as a rural man to either play along or to try to change the subject on which she is focused.
A sign that your date might have an alternate agenda is if you you crack really bad jokes and she still laughs. Another is if you say something which is not humourous and she laughs at it for no reason.
She is always on the phone or looking at it
Unless she has a legitimate reason, your romance will consist of her on the phone and you eating by yourself. If she texting to her friends all the time, or take long conversations on the mobile, it might be time for you to look for someone else. She is most likely not that into you and prioritises other things above you.
Just to remind you that romance is not locked on paper and that events and situations changes people. You might be the perfect rural man for your partner but some situation is preventing the commencement of the romance. If you seek professional advice for a long term relationship, please contact us to help you find the right one.